Letting Go
Most of us have a really hard time forgiving a person who hurt us. Its very hard for us to let go of all the feelings and just move on. The feelings may come back from time to time but there are some easy steps to get rid of them completely. Its a tried and tested method and trust me it works. For the past one year I have not had any bad thoughts. I have been completely happy and content with myself.
Even I was hurt a year back by a very selfish person, but I learnt to let it go. Stopped cribbing about everything and just moved on.
Anyway here are the steps :
1. Throw away everything that the person had gifted you. Selling might be a good option cause you can use that money to buy yourself something good, but if you are like me you would end up throwing everything in a river. The watches, the t shirts, the guitar or the amp or whatever that person may have given you, you need to throw it away.
2. Give up on all the things that you did as a couple and remind you of those horrible moments when you were in that so called "LOVE". You need to give it up so that it stops reminding you and when you are through with the whole process analyse and realize if you liked it or not. If you do then try doing it alone. A solo lunch can be an awesome option. Trust me women and men find a single person holding a book and having a good meal with wine really hot.. I have been approached by many people to join my table for one!
3. Try looking your best and get in shape. I know after you break up you do end up eating away the chocolates or the ice cream in the fridge. Get up and leave that, just wear your running shoes and go for a walk.
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4. STOP DRINKING! : Drinking is a very bad habit. Even occasional drinking is something that I do not approve of. One glass of red wine or white wine is good, but you need to stop getting sloshed on whiskey or vodka, beer or tequila and etc.
5. Stop looking forward to a rebound relationship. This is the worst thing a person can do. Not only it screws up with your head but also screws up with the other person's mind. Why do you have to throw your problems on someone else. What did he/she do to deserve it? Come on think of the other person as sensitive and caring as you and do not go for a one night stand or something. I learnt this very late. By the time I realized this, I was already in 7 relationships. 7 Women I had to leave. I hate myself for doing something like that. For the ladies who I dated : Sorry, I know I was a jerk. Please forgive me.
6. Pick up a habit you love which you gave up for the relationship. In most of your cases this might just one or two tasks. But in my case, my whole life had stopped. I love working, I love cycling, I love playing and listening to music. I started everything. I managed my 24 hrs in such a way that I could do everything! Evenn have time for my relationships.. Sorry ladies..
7. Buy an extremely expensive pair of something. Ok don't go all gungho like me but you need to celebrate your liberation. Go get an expensive watch, suit, or running shoes. You need to treat yourself for being the best in the world. You are awesome and you will have plenty of men and women who love you and care for you.
Trust me and follow these steps and the steps you read on google, you will be happy!
I know most of you have already read the ways to get revenge on your ex or how to get your ex back. Trust me there is no point of taking revenge and why do you want to get back to a person who hurt you. No body is worth your tears. You are special. And trust me I do believe that someone somewhere will one day come and make it all worth while. And you will realize why they all never lasted (Thanks Anuja S.)
So just summing it all up. Don't give up! You will pass this phase!
In the memory of a lovely kid who couldn't give up. You will always be remembered.
Even I was hurt a year back by a very selfish person, but I learnt to let it go. Stopped cribbing about everything and just moved on.
Anyway here are the steps :
2. Give up on all the things that you did as a couple and remind you of those horrible moments when you were in that so called "LOVE". You need to give it up so that it stops reminding you and when you are through with the whole process analyse and realize if you liked it or not. If you do then try doing it alone. A solo lunch can be an awesome option. Trust me women and men find a single person holding a book and having a good meal with wine really hot.. I have been approached by many people to join my table for one!
3. Try looking your best and get in shape. I know after you break up you do end up eating away the chocolates or the ice cream in the fridge. Get up and leave that, just wear your running shoes and go for a walk.
4. STOP DRINKING! : Drinking is a very bad habit. Even occasional drinking is something that I do not approve of. One glass of red wine or white wine is good, but you need to stop getting sloshed on whiskey or vodka, beer or tequila and etc.
5. Stop looking forward to a rebound relationship. This is the worst thing a person can do. Not only it screws up with your head but also screws up with the other person's mind. Why do you have to throw your problems on someone else. What did he/she do to deserve it? Come on think of the other person as sensitive and caring as you and do not go for a one night stand or something. I learnt this very late. By the time I realized this, I was already in 7 relationships. 7 Women I had to leave. I hate myself for doing something like that. For the ladies who I dated : Sorry, I know I was a jerk. Please forgive me.
6. Pick up a habit you love which you gave up for the relationship. In most of your cases this might just one or two tasks. But in my case, my whole life had stopped. I love working, I love cycling, I love playing and listening to music. I started everything. I managed my 24 hrs in such a way that I could do everything! Evenn have time for my relationships.. Sorry ladies..
7. Buy an extremely expensive pair of something. Ok don't go all gungho like me but you need to celebrate your liberation. Go get an expensive watch, suit, or running shoes. You need to treat yourself for being the best in the world. You are awesome and you will have plenty of men and women who love you and care for you.
Trust me and follow these steps and the steps you read on google, you will be happy!
I know most of you have already read the ways to get revenge on your ex or how to get your ex back. Trust me there is no point of taking revenge and why do you want to get back to a person who hurt you. No body is worth your tears. You are special. And trust me I do believe that someone somewhere will one day come and make it all worth while. And you will realize why they all never lasted (Thanks Anuja S.)
So just summing it all up. Don't give up! You will pass this phase!
In the memory of a lovely kid who couldn't give up. You will always be remembered.
